Monday night is Family Dinner night. Danni comes over and we all sit down for dinner, we are going to have to change the day with college classes Mondays are not working.
Last night we sat and talked about general stuff but then moved into talking about the wedding. Everyone will have jobs, big or small; everyone will have something to do. Its looking like it will be a small affair which will be nice. I have told her that I will not put up with any snide remarks from her step-mom but also I wont be the one that makes her leave … I will make sure someone else has that pleasure.
It is odd talking to her about what she wants for her wedding how she sees it what she hopes it to be… My hope for her is that she is relaxed and enjoys her day; I also hope that it is everything she wants it to be. So many people have asked to be a part of her day that I think she is a little overwhelmed and it goes back to trying to make it smaller event. Hard to do with just the massive size of our family and that doesn’t count her fathers side of the family. She is wondering if some people would be offended it they are asked to leave kids at home. She is figuring if the kids don’t know who she is then why should the kids be at the wedding? I understand that thought but then I think that the kids or the families are part of the community that you as a married couple will be living in, and making your own family for. But I understand space constraints. What I have told her and what I will continue to tell her is it doesn’t matter what happens, what matters is that at the end of the day they are married. She doesn’t want drama, I understand that. She will not be able to control others but what she will have is people around her to make sure she doesn’t know that the cake is wrong, or that no one has shown up due to a traffic issue, or that the toasting glasses aren’t here, or that the flowers didn’t get done until hours before the wedding. Many things that past brides didn’t even know were going on until much later. (In some cases MONTHS later)
This year will be a big one… she turns 21 and she gets married. For BOTH of us. A big year.
Last night we sat and talked about general stuff but then moved into talking about the wedding. Everyone will have jobs, big or small; everyone will have something to do. Its looking like it will be a small affair which will be nice. I have told her that I will not put up with any snide remarks from her step-mom but also I wont be the one that makes her leave … I will make sure someone else has that pleasure.
It is odd talking to her about what she wants for her wedding how she sees it what she hopes it to be… My hope for her is that she is relaxed and enjoys her day; I also hope that it is everything she wants it to be. So many people have asked to be a part of her day that I think she is a little overwhelmed and it goes back to trying to make it smaller event. Hard to do with just the massive size of our family and that doesn’t count her fathers side of the family. She is wondering if some people would be offended it they are asked to leave kids at home. She is figuring if the kids don’t know who she is then why should the kids be at the wedding? I understand that thought but then I think that the kids or the families are part of the community that you as a married couple will be living in, and making your own family for. But I understand space constraints. What I have told her and what I will continue to tell her is it doesn’t matter what happens, what matters is that at the end of the day they are married. She doesn’t want drama, I understand that. She will not be able to control others but what she will have is people around her to make sure she doesn’t know that the cake is wrong, or that no one has shown up due to a traffic issue, or that the toasting glasses aren’t here, or that the flowers didn’t get done until hours before the wedding. Many things that past brides didn’t even know were going on until much later. (In some cases MONTHS later)
This year will be a big one… she turns 21 and she gets married. For BOTH of us. A big year.
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Keeping the day in perspective helps too. The wedding is just one day, the first day to your marriage.
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